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My friends say my boyfriend is ‘tough to like’
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My boyfriend and I are going to visit some friends who have invited us to join them at their lake house. A few months ago, my friends told me my boyfriend is “tough to like.” I realize his sense of humor isn’t...
Human trafficking happens everywhere, Blackburn Center program notesVideo
Local residents may be surprised or shocked to learn that human trafficking happens in Westmoreland County. According to Human Rights First, human trafficking enslaves nearly 25 million people a year worldwide, exploiting victims for sex or labor, sometimes both. The Blackburn Center is collaborating with Reunion Presbyterian Church and the...
Resented by sister since the day she was born
Adapted from a recent online discussion Dear Carolyn: I ruined my sister’s life the day I was born, which was cute back then, but we’re almost 50 now. Starting with childhood, most decisions I make (hair, clothes, musical instrument, sports, college, career, house, etc.) somehow ruin her day. She gets...
Living with Children: The children-need-lots-of-attention myth
One of the more difficult facts for today’s parents, as a rule, to wrap their heads around is the … I’ll say it again, with emphasis … FACT that children do not need (as a general rule) a lot of attention. I was there, working as a journeyman psychologist in...
Son struggles with intimate relationships after death of father
Dear Carolyn: My adult son, now 29, lost his father in a freak accident the day before he turned 13. For more than two years after the accident, his dad lingered in a near vegetative state. A grief counselor I consulted back then told me that as a result of...
Dealing with a ‘Debbie Upper’
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: I have a dear friend who won’t allow anyone to say anything bad about ANYONE. My youngest son was trying to make a point about one of his teachers, who treated him like dirt — we as parents got involved as well...
Boyfriend from Brooklyn won’t cater to her communication style
Dear Carolyn: I would love some perspective on how to accept my significant other’s communication style. For 20 years I have told him I would appreciate it if he would initiate conversations about what’s going on in my life and ask me how/what/why questions instead of yes/no questions. At this...
Greensburg antique show and sale promises items for all tastes
Whether you have $5 or $25,000 to spend, you should be able to find something you like at the annual antique show and sale at the Greensburg Country Club, says organizer John Mickinak. “Not everyone has the same taste, so there’s something for everyone,” he says. The show, which benefits...
Feeling relief, not grief, about her beloved father’s death
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: It was the 15th anniversary of my dad’s death recently. I know it should have been a day marked by profound grief, but instead the primary feeling I had was … relief. This sentiment would have been easier to accept if he...
‘Flip or Flop Vegas’ star to give tips at Monroeville Home Show
Aubrey Marunde has a knack for turning neglected properties into paradises that often are over-the-top Vegas-style transitions. She and her martial arts champ/handyman husband, Bristol, have made HGTV’s “Flip or Flop Vegas” one of the cable station’s hottest home improvement and real estate shows. The show has been renewed for...
University of Pittsburgh at Greensburg hosts one-woman ‘They Call Me Q’ show
The University of Pittsburgh at Greensburg will present “They Call Me Q,”a one-woman show written, performed, and co-produced by Qurrat Ann Kadwani, at 8 p.m. Jan. 24 in Ferguson Theater on the Hempfield campus. The event is free and open to the public. “They Call Me Q” is the story...
Girlfriend doesn’t want biological kids
Hi, Carolyn: My girlfriend of three years does not want biological kids, whereas to me it’s very important. She thinks I’m naive and don’t understand how completely life-altering and difficult childbearing and child-rearing are. I feel I understand all that, and understand the greater biological burden on her, but it’s...
Watershed group plans trip to view bald eagles near Saltsburg
The Loyalhanna Watershed Association is sponsoring a Feb. 6 trip to Loyalhanna Dam, near Saltsburg, to learn about and view bald eagles. Bald eagles are known to frequent the dam outflow in mid-winter. More than 20 of the birds of prey were found congregating there at a given time two...
9 brains, 3 hearts: Some wild facts about octopuses
Mythology and superstition have portrayed octopuses as alien beings or evil creatures dwelling in the terrifying dark depths of oceans. Little wonder, considering they are a bit unusual. The giant Pacific octopus has three hearts, nine brains and blue blood, making reality stranger than fiction. Things to know about the...
Parents need to get on the same page to address daughter’s meltdowns
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My usually calm daughter, 6, has recently started melting down every time something doesn’t go her way — big or small. My spouse and I can’t figure out the best way to handle it. He says I’m too easy on her because...
Armed with affection, octogenarian is an ‘octopus whisperer’
BOSTON — Wilson Menashi palmed a squid in his left hand and extended his arm into an aquarium tank, watching as a giant Pacific octopus stretched out arms to greet him like a friend. Freya latched some of her 2,240 suction cups onto Menashi’s arm, using their powers of taste...
Thoughtful shopping habits fight disorganization, clutter
No matter the topic of my articles, readers will invariably comment, “Just tell people to buy less stuff.” And although I couldn’t agree more that consumption contributes to clutter and disorganization, I’m also aware that telling someone to just stop shopping is not a realistic solution. A dietitian advises clients...
Kiddy lit: Early reading programs give learning a boostVideo
A group of toddlers gathered with parents and grandparents on Jan. 14 in Adams Memorial Library in Latrobe for a session of the library’s “Wee Read” early literacy program. It was a little like herding cats for children’s director Karen Herc until she captured their attention with a round-robin activity...
College student defies his mother’s ban on football
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My son is a wonderful young man, but there was one thing we butted heads on all four years of high school: He wanted to play football, and I wouldn’t let him. Well, he just informed me that he plans to play...
Husband tells daughters of his desire to cheat before telling his wife
Adapted from a recent online discussion. Dear Carolyn: My husband recently told me he had fallen for another woman. I was stunned, but even more when he said he had informed my daughters of his desires before he spoke to me. Both daughters stood up to him, he and I...
Wife second-guesses marriage after trouble conceiving children
Dear Carolyn: I got married two years ago to a wonderful woman. We are in our mid-30s and decided to wait one year before trying to have kids. We waited the year and started trying, but despite neither of us having any obvious medical issues, we’ve been unable to conceive....
Disappointed with adult life
Dear Carolyn: Is being an adult just the process of becoming more accepting of disappointment in life? I’m in my 30s and awakening to the fact that nothing in the life I have spent a decade building — relationships, career, skills, hobbies, home — is fulfilling to me at all....
Man can’t connect with wife now that kids are grown and gone
Dear Carolyn: After 30 years of marriage, my wife and I have come to the realization that we have nothing in common. It hasn’t always been this way. Even with our cultural differences — my wife emigrated from Central America at 20; I’m third-generation Japanese American — there was an...
Grandparents’ options are limited when good advice is ignored
Q: We have 10 grandchildren, spread among three of our kids. They all live within an hour’s drive, so we see them often. We want to be involved in their lives and to be good influences. Our problem is with the parents. None of them are receptive to any advice...
Snowshoe event satisfies cabin fever and chili cravings in Laurel Highlands
Deep in the heart of the dark and cold of winter, cabin fever can strike. Appetites for hearty meals also increase this time of year. From 5-7:30 p.m. on Jan. 31, Laurel Highlands Conservation Landscape partners, including the Forbes State Forest, will hold a “Snowshoes and Chili” event. Burn off...
